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Home / Latest News / The mother of Jacob Abraham, who took his own life, has started a foundation in his name

The mother of Jacob Abraham, who took his own life, has started a foundation in his name

After flowers, balloons, candles and tributes were left in memory of her son, the support from her community inspired her to give something back.

Nicola Abraham’s son Jacob, from Cardiff, took his own life on October 11 last year. He was just 24.

Speaking about Jacob’s death, Nicola, a counsellor for the charity Barnardo’s, said: “His depression wasn’t clinical but circumstantial.

Read more: Heartfelt tributes, flowers, candles and balloons cover park railings in memory of Jacob Abraham

“Every time he went out and had alcohol and recreational drugs he would become depressed. It would take him days to be himself again.

“It was just that one occasion when there was a rave and he went off to that. He had taken cocaine and ecstasy and we believe it was a contributor to his death.

“He had been clean for six weeks, eating healthy and training, and the crash in his system contributed to suicidal thoughts and behaviour.”

Jacob ran the Cardiff Half Marathon just before his death

There was a huge outpouring of grief

Friends and family lit candles and left many pictures, flowers, cards and balloons at the railings of Splott Park on Muirton Road in Tremorfa in the hours after his death.

Nicola now wants to give something back to the community after it helped her and her family in their hour of need.

With the help of her friend Nicola McCue, Nicola has set up a foundation named after her son to raise funds and awareness about male suicide.

Read more: ‘It’s a national scandal that suicide rates among men in Wales are so high’

The Jacob Abraham Foundation will set up training in Cardiff and the Vale of Glamorgan in suicide prevention and intervention, to fund more posters and leaflets about male suicide, provide workshops on mindfulness and wellbeing for young people and to provide aftercare for families affected by suicide.

Friend Nicola, who looks after the funding side of the foundation, said a number of events such as a barbecue and a group of people running the World Half Marathon Championships in Cardiff in March had raised in the region of £25,000.

A bench was also placed in Splott Park in memory of Jacob, using money raised by the community.

Flowers and tributes were left for Jacob

This is what’s happening next

She said: “The foundation has been a great thing for Jacob’s mum and dad and it’s been a good focus for them and they feel they are helping other people by raising this money and the awareness.

“There’s not enough awareness out there about suicide which is the biggest killer of men under 50.”

Read more: Why has the rate of suicides among men in Wales soared to its highest ever level?

A “mini-marathon” is due to take place on June 5 followed by a family fun day with music and a bouncy castle at Tremorfa Park from 11am to 3pm.

It will begin with a 1.2km race for young children followed by a 5k race for older children.

There will also be a football tournament on July 23 in Tremorfa Park as well as more than 100 people taking part in the Cardiff Half Marathon on behalf of the charity in October.

‘Jake’ meant so much to so many

Speaking about her son’s love of sport, Nicola said: “Six days before he died he ran the Cardiff Half Marathon.

“Jake loved football, it was his huge passion and he was very talented himself.

“He was very laid back and sensitive. He was a quiet boy loved by everybody and he was harmless.

“He just had a very dry sense of humour and made people laugh without intending to.

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Speaking about the support of the community following Jacob’s death, Nicola said: “They were absolutely amazing, and it got us through the worst week of our lives knowing everyone was supporting us.

“Because of the stigma surrounding suicide, families are going into hiding with the guilt and shame when there is no reason to be.

“The community were fantastic. They were on board and supportive and we needed to give something back.”

A website for the Jacob Abraham Foundation is due to be up and running next week.

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