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Father’s Day: Letters from the heart from dads to their children

Alan Bretos, 46, internal salesman of Amari Plastics in Cardiff, lives in Llandaff North, Cardiff, with wife Kerry and daughters Ruby, seven, and Lily, 10:

“Dear Lily and Ruby,

Girls, you two are the glittering jewels of my life. Being a dad to you both is a sheer privilege.

The love and happiness you provide me is priceless.

Lily, from the moment you were born I knew you had a zest for life!

I cannot believe it was your 10th birthday last Friday; you have blossomed into a polite, pretty, funny, clever and caring young lady.

I am very proud of you and your progress in school and especially ballet, where you recently performed with such elegance at St David’s Hall, bringing tears to my eyes.

Your progress in karate is a delight to watch and your newest adventure is singing lessons! I hope all these experiences help improve your confidence.

Ruby, you are now seven and the years are passing us by at such speed. You too are a wonder.

Your cheeky, cheery smile which erupts into a bubble filled face will always brighten my day. You too are showing great progress in school, ballet, karate and swimming. You are so loving, cute, happy and fearless.

I love your Rubyism’s (as your mum and I call them) such as the other day when you came running in from the garden after cutting your leg saying, “My leg is bleeding cats and dogs!”

I will always remember how proud you were when you wrote to the Queen wishing her luck for her Jubilee and your wonderful reaction when you received a letter back thanking you for your support.

I read stories to you both every night and I will continue to for as long as you are happy to listen.

Reading is a special, special pleasure and I hope that you realise how important and wonderful books can be.

These special days of childhood go so quickly as you both get older and I hope to make the most of this time together. I have always kept a diary which I write as detailed and descriptively as possible about events, special days out, Christmas, snow days, holidays, funny things you both say and I would recommend every parent do the same.

I often get asked by one of you, “Dad tell me about the day I was born” or “Read to me what I did on my fifth birthday”.

It gives us all great joy and many laughs to look back. I wonder what the 20 and 17-year-old Lily and Ruby will think reading back?

So, please keep up your enthusiasm and give 100% in all you continue to do, work hard and you can achieve anything, of that I am so sure.

Your proud and loving dad ”

Dad-of-three Andrew Homer, from Pentyrch, is a keen allotment gardener and poultry keeper, growing produce and collecting eggs for the home. He has three sons Jake, five, Rhys, four, and Ewan, two:

Andrew Homer with Ewan, Jake and Rhys, and their mum Rachel v
Andrew Homer with Ewan, Jake and Rhys, and their mum Rachel


“To my boys,         

It is fascinating to watch you grow and develop your own personalities and the piece of advice I would give to you all is to be true to yourselves and do what you enjoy most.

Follow what you want to do and don’t do it just because everyone else is doing it.

Jake, you are the sensitive, shy one who loves cwtchs and telling jokes, Your favourite of the moment is, “Why was the beach wet? Because the seaweed”, which makes us laugh.

Watching your joy is a joy.

Rhys, you are our Mr Fix It, obsessed with Bob the Builder, always at the tool bench and you love the allotment.

Ewan, you are the complete opposite and love to break everything in sight, but your cheeky smile means you get away with it.

You are all very different and we would never push you into something you didn’t want to do.

But it is important to give you experiences, like understanding the allotment and where food comes from.

When I was younger I spent three weeks travelling around New Zealand’s South Island.

It was a wonderful place, but when I returned to Wales I realised that it is just as beautiful here and we are lucky because it is on our doorstep and you don’t have to travel to the other side of the world to find it.

We think it is important to make sure you are aware of what is around you and help you to appreciate it.

Your loving dad”

Lee Burksfield’s sons are Tomos, 12, and six-year-old twins Dylan and Sam. He lives with his wife Gaynor in Caerphilly:

Lee Burksfield with twins Sam, left, and Dylan and Tomos
Lee Burksfield with twins Sam, left, and Dylan and Tomos


“To my sons,           

This Father’s Day will be slightly different to the others. Like most dads on this special day I enjoy being pampered, but this year I’m not looking for anything from you apart from your ears.

In return I will give you something really valuable… advice.

The advice I’d like to give is about how important it is for young boys like yourselves to see the benefits of having both parents share in your upbringing.

Dylan and Sam, when we found out we were having twins your mother and I knew home life would have to change. With mum often having to work away and childcare being so expensive, I left my job to care for you full-time and then when you went to school I looked for a more flexible job in taxi driving.

The less rigid hours mean I have the time to get you ready in the morning, take you to school and entertain you in the evening. This is quality time that we all enjoy.

This year I’m supporting a campaign by Chwarae Teg to encourage dads to take the opportunity of this year’s Father’s Day to chat to their sons about the importance of both parents having equal responsibilities within the home.

With recent survey results from the organisation showing that only one in 10 women in Wales is choosing to stay at home to look after the house and children, rather than have a job, chances are your relationships with work and family will take a step further once again.

Your grandparents had traditional homes where grandma would manage the household and childcare and granddad would bring in the money.

Mum and I have always known that we both wanted fulfilling careers and to look after you. I think it’s great that you will get to grow up understanding the benefits of having mum and dad around and I hope your children will receive the same advice from you.

Lots of love”

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